There is something that has been weighing on me lately, and I feel like I need to get it out. If you are reading this, there is a good chance that you have read before, and you know that I have had the privilege of carrying three gorgeous sets of twins for three couples. Each experience was different in its own way, but this last time was especially unique (and not because I had kankles like no one had ever seen!). This last time, I got to help make a family for a gay couple....two amazing men who are now amazing daddies.
Phew, I said it...not sure why I have taken so long to do this. When we started on this last journey, we decided that we would consider a gay couple, but only on a case by case basis on how we got along with them. Well, one dinner at Cowfish, and we were sold. They are truly an amazing couple, and I can honestly say that those two kids will grow up with so much love that they won't know what to do! So, I guess the only question is, why haven't I done this before? Why did I feel the need to keep this from some others? I guess because I am a Christian. I think that there are so many Christians who don't accept the gay lifestyle, but I don't get that. Why can't we love all people? If you say that as a Christian we should follow all of the teachings of the Bible exactly, then we are all surely missing the mark...by far! Why is this the teaching that you choose to fight with? Why is this the thing that you decide is such an ultimate sin? I think that we are called to love all people, not tolerate all people, and then love those that think like us. I tried to keep the fact that I was carrying children for two men to only fairly close friends and family, mainly so I wouldn't cause some sort of uproar with many people in my church. But, I am done with that. I am proud of the fact that I helped to make a family that will grow in love and that they will have two parents that will teach them, accept them, and help them to become the kind of people that we should all strive to be.
With all of the talk about gay marriage, I can't help but think, why can't marriage just be between two people who love each other? Why do we feel the need to have control over happiness for others? Here is something that I know: Happy people do not do horrible acts, they do not kill people, they do not abuse children, they do not rob banks. They live happy lives with people they love and raise well-adjusted and happy children. GASP!!! How horrible!!! Why should I as a straight person have more or different rights than a person who chooses (or just happens to) love a person of the same sex. If you think about it, it's really just ridiculous.
So, there it is. Some of you wouldn't agree with what we chose to do, but then that's okay. I know that my closest friends embraced me and "the guys" and I will forever be truly thankful for amazing friends that will accept people where they are and love them for who they are. I will also forever be truly grateful for the lives I have been able to touch by helping them to have a family, whether it looks just like mine or not.